Victoria was going through her pregnancy with Damien I was going through a whole experience on my own....even though our paths had not crossed 2 little ones would join us ahead.
I was helping to raise my niece her mom was away and my causin (the dad) was young. I too have experience the loss and grieving of a little one since I havent had contact with her since 2008. It is very very hard and should not be underestimated by adoptive parents. In 2009 we took a missionary trip to Costa Rica with a ministry my husband and I are part of www.pasionmasfuego.org which completely changed our lives. Earlier that year a friend of ours was going through some pictures of my niece and her brother and sisters and he turned around and looked at me and said in order for your kids to come you have to release her. It took me while to come to terms with that because I felt that by "releasing her" I was giving up on her. My husband and I prayed we put her in the hands of the Lord, I wept like never before but I knew I had to let her go. Many nights i spend crying holding her things seeing her in all the kids that went by. One of the hardest things anyone ever has to go through.
I had met Victoria at the mall she worked for one of my competitors in the wireless industry and I would see her walking by every once in a while we were on a hi and bye basis. I first met Damien when he was around 2 and I remember thinking wow he could be my nieces brother they favored in so many ways. Life went on and that was pretty much it. I was transferred with my job to a different location so I didnt see or know of her for a while until Myspace connected us back....
So much to share,
Evelin
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Thursday, September 8, 2011
Adoption CAN be a beautiful thing...
What does the bible speak about adoption?
Placing children up for adoption can be a loving alternative for parents who, may for various reasons, be unable to care for their own children. It can also be an answer to prayer for many couples who havent been able to have kids of their own. In the book of Ester, a beautiful girl named Esther, who was ADOPTED by her cousin after her parents death, became a queen and God used her to bring deliverance to the Jewish people. In the New Testament Jesus was conceived through the Holy Spirit instead of through a seed of man. (Matthew 1:18) He was "ADOPTED" and raised by His mother's husband Joseph who took Jesus as his own child. Once WE give our hearts to Christ, believing and trusting in Him alone for salvation, God says we become part of His family—not through the natural process of human conception, but through adoption. “For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship [adoption]. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father’” (Romans 8:15). Similarly, bringing a person into a family by means of adoption is done by choice and out of love. “His unchanging plan has always been to adopt us into His own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ. And this gave Him great pleasure” (Ephesians 1:5). As God adopts those who receive Christ as Savior into His spiritual family, so should we all prayerfully consider adopting children into our own physical families. Moses was born to Israelite parents, Amram and Jochebed, at a time when all baby boys were being killed by an edict of Pharaoh. As the result of a plan by Jochebed to save Moses' life, Pharaoh's daughter took Moses from the river at three months of age. She recognized his heritage and knew that his birth parents had placed him in the river to save his life. Pharaoh's daughter gave the baby to Jochebed to be nursed, probably until about age five. At that time, "she took him to Pharaoh's daughter and he became her son" (Exodus 2:10). However, we read that "Moses, when he had grown up, refused to be known as the son of Pharaoh's daughter" (Hebrews 11:24). The book of Exodus describes Moses' subsequent forty years with his in-laws, his meeting with his birth brother Aaron, and his return to his birth family. Moses' adoption enabled him to have influence with Pharaoh yet identify with God's people, not only because of his genetic ancestry but also because of his faith. Moses did not so much reject his adoptive family as he did their sinful and unrepentant ways as a nation. We can summarize Moses' adoption by seeing it in the context of two loving mothers whose first concern was a child--Jochebed, who parted with her child knowing that his life was at stake if he remained with her; and Pharaoh's daughter, who felt compassion on a child she knew by edict was to be killed. God used these two women to save Moses' life and provide him with a safe and secure childhood. Jochebed's decision is a great example of a birth mother's love for her child. Her godly example sets straight the misconception that birth parents don't love their children. Her love for Moses prompted her to make the ADOPTION plan.
http://www.gotquestions.org/adoption.html
http://www.ppl.org/adopt.html
~Victoria
Placing children up for adoption can be a loving alternative for parents who, may for various reasons, be unable to care for their own children. It can also be an answer to prayer for many couples who havent been able to have kids of their own. In the book of Ester, a beautiful girl named Esther, who was ADOPTED by her cousin after her parents death, became a queen and God used her to bring deliverance to the Jewish people. In the New Testament Jesus was conceived through the Holy Spirit instead of through a seed of man. (Matthew 1:18) He was "ADOPTED" and raised by His mother's husband Joseph who took Jesus as his own child. Once WE give our hearts to Christ, believing and trusting in Him alone for salvation, God says we become part of His family—not through the natural process of human conception, but through adoption. “For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship [adoption]. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father’” (Romans 8:15). Similarly, bringing a person into a family by means of adoption is done by choice and out of love. “His unchanging plan has always been to adopt us into His own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ. And this gave Him great pleasure” (Ephesians 1:5). As God adopts those who receive Christ as Savior into His spiritual family, so should we all prayerfully consider adopting children into our own physical families. Moses was born to Israelite parents, Amram and Jochebed, at a time when all baby boys were being killed by an edict of Pharaoh. As the result of a plan by Jochebed to save Moses' life, Pharaoh's daughter took Moses from the river at three months of age. She recognized his heritage and knew that his birth parents had placed him in the river to save his life. Pharaoh's daughter gave the baby to Jochebed to be nursed, probably until about age five. At that time, "she took him to Pharaoh's daughter and he became her son" (Exodus 2:10). However, we read that "Moses, when he had grown up, refused to be known as the son of Pharaoh's daughter" (Hebrews 11:24). The book of Exodus describes Moses' subsequent forty years with his in-laws, his meeting with his birth brother Aaron, and his return to his birth family. Moses' adoption enabled him to have influence with Pharaoh yet identify with God's people, not only because of his genetic ancestry but also because of his faith. Moses did not so much reject his adoptive family as he did their sinful and unrepentant ways as a nation. We can summarize Moses' adoption by seeing it in the context of two loving mothers whose first concern was a child--Jochebed, who parted with her child knowing that his life was at stake if he remained with her; and Pharaoh's daughter, who felt compassion on a child she knew by edict was to be killed. God used these two women to save Moses' life and provide him with a safe and secure childhood. Jochebed's decision is a great example of a birth mother's love for her child. Her godly example sets straight the misconception that birth parents don't love their children. Her love for Moses prompted her to make the ADOPTION plan.
http://www.gotquestions.org/adoption.html
http://www.ppl.org/adopt.html
~Victoria
Where do we begin?
God has been doing SOMETHING in our lives we had to share our story. Together with my kids birthmom we have decided to help and let everyone out there know that there is light at the end of the tunnel for both birth parents and adoptive parents, grandparents and any part of the family affected by adoption. We will talk about our insecurities and mistakes as well as the wonderful moments we have created. Our kids our growing in a healthy open adoption with an extended family with double the love and double the blessings. You will also hear from family and friends who are also a very important and crucial part in an open adoption. I am glad we have found a place where we can share an possibly help others as well as continue this healing journey.
Be Blessed,
Evelin
Be Blessed,
Evelin
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